HEALING THE REJECTION WOUND
HEALING FREEDOM FROM REJECTION WOUNDING
“As you come to him, the living Stone—
rejected by humans but chosen by God and precious to him—”
(1 Peter 2:4)
This relational wound occurs when someone fails to reciprocate mutual feelings after you have been led to believe they are with you and ready to connect in loving ways. It could be a wound from mother, father, primary caregiver, friend or romantic relation. It may arise when someone ends a relationship in a dysfunctional way or judges you after you have opened your heart and shown vulnerability. This wounding could date all the way back to your childhood if your parents were unhealed and unsaved by the LORD. It’s one of the most painful woundings as person can endure, especially if your identity was not solidly formed and edified by the LORD at a young age.
We were all made in the image of God, and when we do not have a deep intimate relationship with the LORD starting in our formative years, this wounding may arise on your healing journey. I meet with women from all over the world who struggle with the lasting effects of this wounding.
A rejection wound, stemming from past experiences of feeling excluded or unloved, can manifest in various ways, impacting self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. Symptoms can include low self-esteem, fear of intimacy, emotional instability, and difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships. Other signs include overreacting to perceived slights, withdrawing from social situations, and struggling with negative self-talk.
Spiritually: It can result in feelings of deep sadness, emptiness, shame, self-doubt, and a struggle to believe that you are truly loved and valued by God, and by others. Let’s talk a little bit more about this wounding, so you can know you are not alone in this and that there is hope for healing and wholeness after this.
If you struggle with not knowing how to navigate through emotions and memories of the past, there is hope for healing and freedom with Jesus Christ. In the Lord’s caring arms of love, the parts of you that were once wounded through rejection, can be fully nurtured and brought into God’s Fold. And you are safe there!
Symptoms in your life that may indicate you need healing from this wounding:
Feeling afraid of relating and relationships in general
Not sure who you are, and not feeling confident and whole
You have a pretty good pretend mask on, and you yearn to be more authentic and real
Anxiety
Depression
Second-Guessing yourself all the time
People-Pleasing
Difficulty sharing yourself vulnerably
As you embrace deep inner healing and restoration, you will be set free from these symptoms and feel resourced by the Holy Spirit to live AUTHENTIC, EMPOWERED, WHOLE AND FREE.
I know how hard it is to live with this wounding. You are not alone.
Many women are healing from this wounding right now.
A little bit more about this wounding
Rejection may cause surges of anger = In 2001, the Surgeon General of the U.S. issued a report stating that rejection was a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang membership. Many studies show that even mild rejections lead people to take out their aggression on innocent bystanders. School shootings, violence against women, and abusive relating are other examples of the strong link between rejection and aggression. So if you experience high levels of anger, know that this can be healed and released through inner healing and deliverance with Jesus. As you embrace deep healing with the LORD, He can handle all of the anger you feel. He will heal you from that anger and give you peace where the anger once was. This happens by the loving presence of the Holy Spirit. If this wound goes unhealed and undelivered it can create many problems throughout life.
Rejections often puts a person on a mission to find love, but in the wrong places with the wrong people = We often respond to romantic rejections by finding fault in ourselves, falsely believing we are inadequate, kicking ourselves when we’re already down, and being really hard on ourselves. Most romantic rejections are a matter of poor fit and not founded on the cornerstone of the LORD. Relationships built on fleshly woundings and fleshly desires are not rooted and protected in the Spirit Realm. If you experience this rejection wounding, seeking healing with the LORD will set you free from a fruitless search for love, grounding you securely on God’s foundation so you can be guided to the relationships that God has destined for you. You can ask the Holy Spirit to help you be healed and to relinquish your soul from any self-blaming you might be doing. Being hard on your own self only deepens the emotional pain you are feeling and makes it harder for to recover emotionally.
There is someone who understand the rejection wound: JESUS CHRIST
Jesus Christ went through great rejection and He understands the pain you are going through as you embrace your healing season. He can heal this wounding for you with His presence. We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilized and the disconnection we feel adds to our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, or reaching out to members of groups to which we feel strong affinity and who value and accept us, soothes emotional pain after a rejection. Feeling alone and disconnected after a rejection is common, but don’t let that hinder your need for healing and entering into healthy loving relationships.
Lean on JESUS.
Reach out to HEALTHY COMMUNITY.
Do not isolate in this wounding.
Reach out for SUPPORT.
Things you can do to support yourself:
1. Read Scripture on what God’s Word says about Rejection
2. Pray to the Holy Spirit, “Help me be set free this wounding, and rise above the pain God!”
3. Gather with community that you feel safe with. If you don’t have healthy community, ask the LORD to provide this for you.
4. Embrace deep inner healing with the LORD, asking Him to show you all the core traumas where rejection wounded you.
5. Be healed by God so you can forgive from your heart everyone who hurt you in this way.
“I will make a road through the wilderness and give you streams of water here.”
SCRIPTURE TO SUPPORT THE WOUND OF REJECTION
“As you come to him, the living Stone—
rejected by humans but chosen by God and precious to him—”
(1 Peter 2:4)
“Be alert and of sober mind.
Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”
(1 Peter 5:8)
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
(2 Corinthians 12:9)
If you need support, please reach out.
You are not alone.
God will heal you and set you free, and sometimes we need counseling support
to help us get through the season of healing from the past in order to move forward anew.
I would love to support you!
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