Wholeness

Putting the pieces back together again, this time with Love.

Wholeness: Putting the Pieces Back Together with Jesus at the Center

Sister, do you ever feel like you’re just trying to get by?

Like you’re wearing a smile, pushing forward, handling your responsibilities…
but inside, you feel like something is missing?

Like maybe, you’ve lost a piece of your heart along the way?

Many women, especially those who’ve experienced emotional neglect, trauma, or relational breakdowns, find it difficult to even sit still long enough to be with God—let alone speak honestly with Him.

Maybe you’ve never had a safe place to open your heart.
Maybe you’ve never truly experienced someone listening to you without judgment or trying to “fix” you.

But, beloved, God sees you. He knows. And He is not far from you.

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
— Psalm 34:18

You Were Made for Deep Connection

God created you with the need for love, for safety, and for relational connection—with Him and with others. You were never designed to carry your burdens alone.

“It is not good for man to be alone.”
— Genesis 2:18

But when those early needs for love, attunement, or safety were unmet—when your vulnerability was ignored or used against you—your heart may have learned to shut down. To go numb. To isolate.

You may have thought:
“I’m fine.”
“I can handle it myself.”
“I don’t want to burden anyone.”
But these are survival responses, not the truth.

The truth is: you need love. You need care. You need connection. And that is holy and good.

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
— Galatians 6:2

Why We Shut Down — and How Jesus Heals

In their book Safe People, Christian therapists Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend explain how isolation is often a symptom of being unseen, unheard, or emotionally abandoned during formative years.

Let’s look at some common patterns of relational wounding—and what God says about each:

1. Abandonment

You were deeply attached to someone who left—physically or emotionally.

“When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.”
— Psalm 27:10

2. Inconsistent Attachment

Love was given sporadically, unpredictably. You never knew what to expect.

“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.”
— 1 Corinthians 14:33

3. Attack

You were criticized or shamed for having emotional needs, often by someone hurting themselves.

“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”
— Matthew 5:44
(Even as we set healthy boundaries, we recognize that their brokenness was never your fault.)

4. Relational Self-Sufficiency

You learned to survive by going it alone. It kept you safe once—but now it keeps you hidden.

“The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you.’”
— 1 Corinthians 12:21

Jesus Makes Us Whole Again

Wholeness is not found by trying harder or pushing down your needs.
Wholeness begins when you open your heart to Jesus Christ—
the One who sees every fracture, every scar, and every piece of you…
and says, “Let Me put you back together.”

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
— Psalm 147:3

As you begin to feel again—to express what’s been buried—healing begins to flow. Especially when you allow your heart to be heard and held with compassion. This is a vital part of how Jesus restores us through both His Spirit and safe, Spirit-filled people.

“Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”
— James 5:16

And yes, this means confessing need.
Not weakness—need.
Because only when we stop pretending we’re okay can we finally receive the love and help we were created to receive.

Sister, You Are Safe to Heal

God is not asking you to be perfect.
He’s asking you to be honest.

To come to Him as you are.
To trust Him with the pieces.
To stop hiding your pain and let His love flood in.

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
— Matthew 11:28

And as you do—bit by bit—the cold shell of self-protection begins to melt.
The numbness gives way to tenderness.
Isolation gives way to connection.
Survival gives way to life.

When the Storm Rages…

When hope seems far,
When you feel pressure from every side,
When you don’t know where to go or who to turn to…

Know this: you don’t have to walk through it alone.
Jesus is with you. And there are safe, loving people who want to walk with you too.

That’s why I hold sacred space for women just like you—so you can learn how to express, how to feel, how to reconnect, and how to truly heal. Together with Jesus, we put the pieces back together—this time with love.

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
— John 13:34

A Prayer for Wholeness

Heavenly Father,
I come to You just as I am. No more pretending. No more silence. I want to be whole, Lord—not in my strength, but in Yours.
I give You the pieces of my heart. Melt the walls I’ve built. Heal the places I’ve gone numb.
Teach me how to express what’s real, and bring safe, godly people into my life who will reflect Your love.

Jesus, thank You for loving me back to life.
I receive Your comfort, Your healing, and Your freedom.
I trust that You are restoring what was broken and making all things new.
Make me whole, Lord—fully alive in You.

In Your precious name I pray,
Amen.