Surrender and Healing
Surrender, Healing, and the Safety of God’s Love
Many women who are healing from relational dysfunction know what it feels like to carry responsibility that was never truly theirs to hold. Often, this begins in love—wanting to protect, help, or save someone we deeply care about. But over time, that love can become entangled with control, fear, and striving, especially when we have experienced loss, trauma, or instability in relationships.
TESTIMONY OF ONE WOMAN SHARING HER EXPERIENCE
“There was a season in my life where I found myself in a deeply co-dependent relationship with my younger sister as she struggled with addiction. Because of our history and the early loss we shared, I felt responsible for her well-being. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I had stepped into a role that did not belong to me. I wasn’t just supporting her—I was trying to take the place of God in her life.
And lovingly, the Lord showed me the truth: I was enabling her and unintentionally standing in the way of what He wanted to do. God eventually called me to surrender her fully to Him. This was not easy. It required me to release control, step back, and trust Him in a way that felt deeply uncomfortable. I had to move out and allow her to walk her own path, even when that path led to consequences I could not prevent.
When she was later incarcerated, everything in me wanted to step in and fix it—but the Lord told me to wait.
In that place of surrender, something powerful happened. My sister cried out to God herself. She challenged Him, asking Him to deliver her and promising to believe if He did. And God, in His mercy and power, answered. She was set free from addiction, and even the charges against her were dropped. Today, she has been sober for about 10 years. What I witnessed was nothing short of a miracle.
This experience revealed a profound truth:
When we surrender what we cannot control, we make room for God to do what only He can do.”
As it says in Ephesians 3:20, God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine. But often, that kind of breakthrough requires our surrender first.
Understanding True Authority and Submission
For many women healing from unhealthy relationships, the word submission can feel triggering. It may bring up feelings of being controlled, manipulated, or silenced. But God’s design for submission is completely different from what you may have experienced.
Submission to God is not about losing your voice—it’s about finding safety.
It’s not about control—it’s about trust.
1 John 4:18 reminds us that perfect love casts out fear. God’s authority is not harsh or oppressive. It is rooted in love, protection, and care. He is a good Father who handles your heart with gentleness.
When you submit your life to Him, you are not giving yourself to a tyrant—you are placing yourself into the hands of One who sees fully, loves deeply, and leads perfectly.
From Striving to Rest
Relational dysfunction often trains us to live in survival mode—to fix, manage, anticipate, and protect ourselves at all costs. But God invites us all into a different way of living.
Philippians 4:7 speaks of a peace that surpasses all understanding. This is the peace that comes when we are no longer striving to hold everything together.
Jesus Himself said in Matthew 11:30, “My yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Surrender shifts us from self-preservation into God’s divine rest.
It allows us to release what was never ours to carry and to finally receive what God has always wanted to give—peace, safety, and wholeness.
The Transforming Work of the Holy Spirit
None of us are expected to do this alone. The Holy Spirit is our helper in the process of healing and surrender.
Ezekiel 36:26–27 reminds us that God gives us a new heart and places His Spirit within us, enabling us to walk in His ways. This means that even our ability to surrender is a gift of grace. We don’t have to force it—He gently leads us into it.
As we yield to Him:
His peace rules our heart (Colossians 3:15)
His presence covers and protects us (Psalm 91:1)
His authority flows through us (Luke 10:19)
This is what true spiritual authority looks like—not control over others, but alignment with God.
A Gentle Invitation
If you have been carrying people, outcomes, or responsibilities that feel overwhelming, this is your invitation to release them.
We don’t have to be the savior in anyone’s life. We can’t save anyone.
We don’t have to fix what only God can heal. We are not here to fix anyone.
We don’t have to strive to make everything right. Only God can.
We are allowed to rest.
We are called to trust.
We are invited to surrender.
And in that surrender, we do not loose anything—we find ourselves held, healed, and restored by God who loves us more than we can ever think or imagine! And, He helps us believe in the truth: that His love is everything!
A Prayer to support the journey of healing and surrendering to god
“Heavenly Father,
Thank You that You are a safe and loving Father. I surrender every relationship, every burden, and every place where I have tried to take control. Teach me to trust You. Heal the places in my heart that have been shaped by fear, striving, and dysfunction. Holy Spirit, soften my heart and lead me into truth, peace, and rest. Help me to walk in Your authority—not through control, but through surrender. I receive Your love, Your protection, and Your peace today.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
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In Faith,
Meisha