BREAKING CHAINS OF RELATIONAL OPPRESSION
BREAKING THE CHAINS OF DYSFUNCTION
HEALTHY LOVING RELATING IS POSSIBLE
BREAKING THE SHACKLES OF OPPRESSION IN RELATIONSHIPS
unhealthy, unhealed, dysfunctional, selfish, wounded relating is very hard to endure
~ isn’t it?
When I began my own healing journey, I had no idea how powerful the Lord’s love was. I had no idea how powerful God was to actually break the thick oppressive chains of destruction and dysfunction in my family. In the Bible it actually tells us that as we let the LORD heal and bind up our deepest woundings, God can even bring our enemies to be at peace with us.
As I started my journey with the LORD, he must have known that I needed healthy relating and relationships in my life because that was the first thing He began to do in my life.
“Hallelujah! Praise the Lord! How beautiful it is when we sing our praises to the beautiful God, for praise makes you lovely before him and brings him great delight! The LORD builds up Jerusalem; he gathers up the outcasts and brings them home. He heals the wounds of every shattered heart. He sets his stars in place, calling them all by their names. How great is our God! There’s absolutely nothing his power cannot accomplish, and he has infinite understanding of everything.” - Psalm 147:1-5 TPT
What is Healthy Loving Relating?
God wants us to communicate with clarity, and build life-giving relationships. Healthy and Holy Relating and Relationships support emotional safety, honesty, and connection without blame, shame, or fear. It empowers us to love and be loved with the heart and wisdom of Jesus Christ.
If you grew up in dysfunction, or have experienced abuse, control, or emotional neglect, this way of relating may feel unfamiliar—even uncomfortable. But none of us have to settle or remain numbed out in this kind of dysfunction. Our Healing often begins in the un-chartered territory of our soul.
Relating with the heart of the Father may seem slow, awkward, or strange at first, especially if all you have experienced has been unhealthy, manipulative and controlling… but as we heal and grow with the LORD healthy loving relating and relationships become peace filled, life-giving, and deeply satisfying.
“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” —John 8:32
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins
(1 Peter 4:8)
Why Healthy Loving Relating Truly Matters
Backed by Scripture & Science
When homes are built on God’s love, truth, and emotional safety, lives change. Generations change. Faith-based families with emotionally secure environments experience profound long-term benefits.
Why Healthy Loving Relating Matters
When our relationships are full of pain or confusion, it’s hard to focus on anything else. It’s hard to thrive. It’s hard to walk in purpose. But when safety and love are restored, our whole life begins to change.
HEALTHY LOVING RELATING IS A FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT - It lays a foundation for:
Peace in your home
Clarity in your purpose
Health and wholeness in your body and soul
Emotional stability and spiritual maturity
Freedom from codependency and unhealthy patterns
The restoration of joy and intimacy in relationships
“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” —Romans 12:10
What to Expect in the Beginning
You may feel:
Wobbly or unsure
Silly or fake
Afraid of being rejected
Scared of being truly seen
Tempted to give up
That’s okay. Healing can feel like that at first. But over time, you’ll experience:
Real connection
Peaceful conversations
Feeling seen, heard, and safe
Joy in celebrating others
A new kind of love and belonging
Some people in your life might not understand or appreciate this new way of relating. That’s okay too. Stay the course. You are planting seeds of change for generations to come.
The Practice of HEALTHY LOVING RELATING: Two Key Roles
Skilled Authentic Expressor — learning how to communicate honestly with love.
Skilled Present Listener — learning how to be fully present with others without judgment.
Together, these two roles create safe, healing spaces where God’s love flows freely.
📊 Statistical Benefits of Healthy, Secure Homes (Faith-Centered AND Emotionally Safe):
🔹 Lower rates of depression and anxiety. Children raised in emotionally safe homes are 40% less likely to develop anxiety or depression later in life.
(American Psychological Association, 2021)🔹 Increased academic and career success. Teens from stable, emotionally connected families are more than twice as likely to finish high school and pursue higher education.
(Harvard University Center on the Developing Child)🔹 Stronger marriages and adult relationships. Adults who experienced healthy conflict resolution and spiritual values in their families are 31% more likely to report long-term, satisfying romantic relationships.
(National Marriage Project, University of Virginia)🔹 Higher resilience through trauma. Children who grow up in faith-centered, emotionally safe homes show greater resilience and reduced risk for addiction and self-harm, even if they face hardship.
(Journal of Adolescent Health, 2020)🔹 Improved physical health. People with healthy relational bonds experience lower cortisol (stress hormone) levels, leading to better immune function, sleep, and heart health.
(NIH, 2018; Mayo Clinic)
📖 And of course, Scripture affirms this truth:
“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” —Proverbs 24:3-4
“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.” —Psalm 127:1
When your home and heart are built on Christ’s love and relational wisdom, everything changes—from the inside out.
The Benefits of Healthy Loving Relating in Everyday Life
When Healthy Loving Relating becomes your new normal, you may begin to notice:
✅ More peace and laughter in your home
✅ Better sleep and less stress
✅ Freedom from codependency and confusion
✅ Clearer thinking and healthier decision-making
✅ Healing in your body as your nervous system calms
✅ More fulfilling and honest conversations
✅ A stronger relationship with God and others
✅ Confidence in your identity and purpose
✅ Joy in seeing generational cycles of dysfunction come to an end
The bottom line:
When you invest in Healthy Loving Relating, you are not only healing your own life—you are laying the foundation for healthier children, stronger communities, and a deeply fulfilling walk with God.
It’s never too late to begin. Your healing starts now.
Jesus is with you, and His love is leading the way.
If you need support on your journey, I help women and families heal and grow after relational trauma.
You are not alone and God can heal every wound and make family new ~
it’s a journey of surrender and trust.
Trusting in the LORD with all your heart.