Dysfunctional Relating: A Fowler's Snare

FREE AT LAST!

“Your road led by a pathway through the sea, a pathway no one knew was there!” ~ Psalms 78:19

HEALING and freedom
FROM THE TRAP OF RELATIONAL DYSFUNCTION

Before we talk about the trap,
let's talk about the impact of being ensnared in this AWFUL AND DANGEROUS TRAP

You may feel something is off, but not sure what

You may loop in fear, doubt and repeated cycles of defeat

You may have experienced a breaking down of confidence

You may believe something is seriously wrong with you

You may experience bouts of extreme unhappiness, lack of joy

You may have contemplated dying, living is hard to handle

You may experience intrusive thoughts, a focus on darkness

Others may not like when you feel joy, joy is fleeting

Hope may be fleeting, peace shaky, stability non-existent

You may say you are sorry all the time, overly apologetic

You might seek empowerment but experience powerlessness

You may have a hard time with decision making

You may be confused, trying to understand things but cannot

You may have a hard time focusing and cannot concentrate

You may be riddled with doubt and second-guessing

You have been anxious, depressed and timid in your expressions

You may lack discernment

You people-please to stay safe and connected

People may not listen to you, or believe what you are saying

You may be constantly blamed and shamed by others

You may have experienced being ridiculed and mocked

You are treated as though you are overreacting

People tell you, "you are just playing victim" or you are "too sensitive"

Have you found yourself looping in these traps, either now or in the past?
You are not alone! God can heal you from these painful relational dynamics and rescue you from the snare.

(Psalm 124:7-8) “Our soul has escaped as a bird out of the snare of the trapper. The snare is broken and we have escaped. All help is in the Name of the Lord Who made heaven and earth.”

MANY WOMEN ARE BEING SET FREE RIGHT NOW

Dysfunctional relational dynamics oppress and minimize

These are dynamics aimed to oppress.

But with God, He sets free!

You might be (or were in the past):

Made to feel guilty

Realize you are suddenly the subject of baseline gossip

Perhaps persistently discredited

Expected to read the mind of the person gaslighting you

Lied to over and over again expected to believe the lies

When you feel joy - it is quickly dimmed

Requests for healthy connection is ridiculed or denied

When you share impact you are shunned, dismissed

You are bullied and intimidated regularly, then you are the one who is accused of malicious intent

You may be left wondering,

"What is going on here?"

Psychology may describe what's going on in the natural realm.

But the root of this is spiritual.

To make sense of what is truly going on, we need to understand what is happening in the spiritual realm.

In the spirit realm, there is a kingdom of darkness and a kingdom of light. A kingdom of deception and a kingdom of truth. A kingdom of oppression, and a kingdom of freedom.

These two kingdoms are at war.

We are not aware of this spiritual war until the veil is lifted.

Until the scales are removed from our eyes.

The scales are removed when we accept the free gift of salvation. When we are born again by Holy Spirit.

Relational dysfunction is spiritual warfare.

Relational dysfunction is one way the kingdom of darkness attempts to bait us, hook us, deceive us, harm us, leaving many defeated and severely traumatized. Spiritually, this is the result of sin (not walking in God's ways), spiritual deception, spiritual warfare and unhealed trauma. This creates a trap or a snare. The fowler's snare.

As we turn to God and walk in the fear of the Lord, receive inner healing and deliverance and restoration for our soul, God can set us free from this relational snare.

THE FOWLER’S SNARE

The fowler's snare is defined in the dictionary as a trap for catching birds or animals, typically one having a noose of wire or cord.

Traps, snares, pits, and hunting nets are mentioned over 90 times in God's Word. “Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” (Ephesians 5:15-16)

The good news is this: As we look to God for help, turning away from our own self-protection, self-healing, self-help, self-living, and man-made ideas, and turn to the one true living God, we now can be set free and walk in the freedom that God has for us ~ given to us by the Lord. "Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom."

And this is true freedom!

I have been walking with the Lord for over 4 years. He has rescued me from this trap. I testify that there is real hope and healing, true freedom, and new life embracing salvation and deliverance from this trap, by Jesus Christ.

Whatever trap we have been tripped up in, whatever net in which we have been entangled, whatever deep pit we have heedlessly fallen into, we always have a way of deliverance through the abundant mercy of Jesus Christ.

Through the cleansing, renewing power of the Holy Spirit, we are taken right out from the trap and into a brand new start — with fresh empowerment and a restored intimacy with God.

"A trap is something that stops you; catches you; steals your mobility and purpose and peace of mind; delivers you into someone else’s control; and in the worst case scenarios, the victim experiences pain and injury, ongoing captivity, even death. Needless to say, a trap is a wickedly dangerous thing that is to be avoided at all costs." (Vital Signs Ministry)

The power of our Savior’s grace is victorious.

At the first shout (or even whisper) with repentance, God is immediately at hand to rescue. God delivers us from the snare of the trapper. God plucks our feet out of the net. God pulls us out of the net which our enemies have secretly laid. And those enemies are not the actually people, but demonic forces moving through unsaved and undelivered people. We can actually finally be healed, delivered, and set free to walk in God's real destiny for our lives, which is not to harm us, but to prosper our souls.

I recommend reading the scripture below from the Book of Psalms very carefully. When we are in the trap of relational dysfunction, which is demonic in every way, we are caught like the bird in the snare. Our soul is trapped.

But when the snare is broken, we can escape. And the only one who can save us from this trap / snare and break the chains is the Name of the Lord: Jesus Christ. Our relationship with Jesus Christ is the foundation for all other relationships.

(Psalm 124:7-8) “Our soul has escaped as a bird out of the snare of the trapper. The snare is broken and we have escaped. All help is in the Name of the Lord Who made heaven and earth.”

A PRAYER TO SUPPORT YOUR FREEDOM JOURNEY

I pray freedom and a holy setting free by the power of the Holy Spirit,
for every soul held captive in the pit of relational dysfunction.
May your precious soul escape the fowler's snare and finally receive the help you need,
by the only one who can actually help ~ Jesus Christ.

May you know how much the Lord loves you,
as He created you,
and that you can be safe at last in the arms of the Lord.
He wants none of us to perish,
but to give us freedom and life abundantly.
On earth as it is in Heaven!
Every wound can be healed by Him,
and your soul finally at peace and rest.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Under the protection of our Heavenly Father,
and the indwelling power of the Holy Spirit,
we can walk with God in liberty and safety.

There is hope for healing,
and freedom from this snare.

In Faith, Meisha

Meisha Bosma