LOVED, CHOSEN, REDEEMED
HOPE FOR HEALING TRAUMA WITH JESUS CHRIST
Loved, Chosen, Redeemed:
Healing Trauma Through Your Identity in God
I grew up not knowing who I was, and I was deeply confused until I encountered Jesus Christ.
When someone grows up without secure love, without emotionally healthy parents, or without a steady relationship with Christ, the search for identity becomes inevitable. Something inside begins asking, Who am I? Where do I belong? Why do I feel this way?
When childhood trauma, neglect, or relational instability mark your early years, identity can become fractured. You may learn to define yourself by survival. Or perhaps by performance-based behavior instead of the peace God as your foundation. You most likely tried to gauge your sense of self through other people’s reactions instead of God’s revelation about who you really are.
We often begin looking for our identity in careers, ministry roles, relationships, appearance, success, reputation, financial stability, or even how well we serve others. These things can feel like solid ground. But they are not permanent, and they are not eternal. Jobs change. Relationships shift. Bodies age. Reputations can be misunderstood.
When our identity is built on something that can be taken away, our sense of self is fragile.
The enemy of our souls knows that we are fragile without Jesus Christ showing us who we are. So, he does whatever he can to trap us into confusion, distraction, hurt, trauma bonding, lack of healthy bonding, abuse, neglect and other things that are not of the Lord.
Then, the enemy studies our wounds.
He whispers into old those old pains time and time again, creating cycles of dysfunction and coping mechanisms, traps of false identity and discouragements.
He tempts us to agree with the lies formed in the trauma.
“You’re not enough.”
“You’re too much.”
“You’re defined by what happened to you.”
But God tells a different story about us.
God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He is unwavering in His ways. He made us and so He knows us better than the enemy of our soul. God is steady. Faithful. Reliable. So, when our identity is rooted in Him, it cannot be undone by circumstances.
The world says, “Look within yourself to discover who you are.”
But Scripture tells us we were created in the image of God. Our identity can become known to us through the inner healing journey and through the revelation given to us by the Lord. Knowing the One who formed us, we come to know who we truly are. This can be very healing for you, if you are a survivor of abuse or relational dysfunction of any kind.
As we learn who God is—His love, His holiness, His compassion, His strength—we begin to understand how He sees us and how He made us.
Our Identity then flows from our pursuing intimacy with God.
The foundation of our faith is this: we believe in a Creator God who loves us so deeply that He sent His Son so we could be holy in His sight and live in eternal relationship with Him. To walk confidently in healing, we must receive that love personally. Not just as theology. But as truth applied to our precious hearts.
We are loved by the Lord.
Not tolerated.
Not barely accepted.
But Deeply loved.
Born Again by Holy Spirit, we are chosen.
Created by God, we are not an accident.
God sent His Son for everyone!
That means we are wanted - a blessing and not a burden.
Walking with Jesus Christ, we are found. We are saved from confusion, and we are forgiven and shown our true identity.
Walking with Jesus Christ, we are finally seen and understood by the one who matters most.
What we have done wrong is not counted against us, and what Christ did is counted for us. What others did to us, we can finally heal from. Hallelujah! Shame often attaches itself to trauma—even when the trauma was not our fault. But forgiveness breaks the grip of the trauma.
We are redeemed in Christ. When God looks at us, He does not see only our woundings and hurt, or our worst season. He sees a new creation. He sees His restoration in progress. He sees the wholeness forming, and He does this transformation Himself!
If you have given your life to Jesus, you are going to heal by His love. You are now adopted. You are not spiritually orphaned anymore. You belong to the family of God with full rights and inheritance. Permanently secure. Eternally His.
Pause for a moment and consider what would change if you truly believed this.
How would you live?
How would you respond to fear?
How would you relate to others?
How would you approach the Lord?
Scripture reminds us again and again who we are. We are with God. We are free from condemnation. We are children of God and an heir with Christ. We are more than a conqueror. We are a new creation. We are accepted. We are God’s workmanship. We have not been given a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. We are complete in Christ. We are overcomers!
These are not motivational phrases.
They are spiritual realities.
As you meditate on these truths, trauma-informed healing begins to deepen. The lies formed in childhood start losing authority. Neural pathways shaped by fear begin to be rewired by truth. Shame loosens. Fear shrinks. Secure attachment to your Heavenly Father begins to form.
You start looking less like your wounds.
And more like Christ. You can mature from a wounded girl, into a woman of God.
Healing trauma is not only about revisiting and feeling pain that was numbed out for years. It is about finally healing and be held, and then God blossoming your true identity. You are not the labels spoken over you. You are not your coping mechanisms. You are who God says you are! You are beautiful, radiant and unstoppable for the Kingdom of Heaven!
Rooted. Secure. Loved. Chosen. Redeemed. Adopted.
As God anchors your true and secure identity in Him, and how He uniquely made you, you grow in intimacy with God and in healthy connection with others. You become stable—not because life never shakes, but because your foundation cannot ever be shaken.
And that is where true wholeness begins. 🤍